Time to Kiss a Frog
When You’re Desperate, It’s Time to Get Picky
True Cads
The Relationships Pillars - The Status
The Relationships Pillars - Wealth
The Relationships Pillars - Looks
All Rejections Are Not Created Equal
What he said shocked me.
“Dude, I totally pulled that girl back to the hotel and nailed her twice! With Johnny and his girl in the other bed next to us!! And then I hit it again in the morning! Dude, she had totally done that before. Virgin my a!”
I started laughing. Monty asked me what was so funny. I told him. He was blown away. In fact, he was so blown away it was two days before we could have a 5 minute conversation without him bringing it up. It was at least a week before he a day passed without him bringing it up. His conception of girls in the Church had been totally rocked, and it took him awhile to adjust to it.
Guys, I’m not saying every church girl is a slut masquerading as a “good girl”, but realize human nature is human nature. Just like being in a cookie jar doesn’t making you a cookie, going to church and acting “good” doesn’t mean she’s Good.
Among my church friends, I make no secret of my history. I also firmly believe people make mistakes, and that those mistakes shouldn’t define how I treat them as a person (barring a few choices with massive consequences). I also keep my mouth shut about things people tell me in confidence. Knowing that I’ve already made mistakes, that I won’t judge people for theirs, and having a safe place in which to relate their stories creates an interesting dynamic: people are far more prone to open up to me about their sexual histories.
What I’ve discovered shouldn’t surprise anyone who reads the news: the overwhelming majority of young adults have “hooked up” in one fashion or another. The Church can rail against it all day long, but it’s clearly a struggle in a society where the average age of marriage is ~27 and the chance of divorce is approximately 50%.
Of course, this doesn’t stop girls from rationalizing their behavior away. In fact, I’ve seen girls who I 100% know have slept with a guy state they were virgins. Utter, total, blatant lies, but they had figured out some reason it “didn’t count”. The drive to protect their reputations and egos is that high.
Guys, the point of all this is not to be blinded by your impression of a girl, and especially don’t be projecting your hopes of purity onto a girl. A girl’s sexual history is a significant factor in the likelihood your marriage will survive, so make sure to go in with both eyes open.
When You’re Desperate, It’s Time to Get Picky
True Cads
The Relationships Pillars - The Status
The Relationships Pillars - Wealth
The Relationships Pillars - Looks
All Rejections Are Not Created Equal
What he said shocked me.
“Dude, I totally pulled that girl back to the hotel and nailed her twice! With Johnny and his girl in the other bed next to us!! And then I hit it again in the morning! Dude, she had totally done that before. Virgin my a!”
I started laughing. Monty asked me what was so funny. I told him. He was blown away. In fact, he was so blown away it was two days before we could have a 5 minute conversation without him bringing it up. It was at least a week before he a day passed without him bringing it up. His conception of girls in the Church had been totally rocked, and it took him awhile to adjust to it.
Guys, I’m not saying every church girl is a slut masquerading as a “good girl”, but realize human nature is human nature. Just like being in a cookie jar doesn’t making you a cookie, going to church and acting “good” doesn’t mean she’s Good.
Among my church friends, I make no secret of my history. I also firmly believe people make mistakes, and that those mistakes shouldn’t define how I treat them as a person (barring a few choices with massive consequences). I also keep my mouth shut about things people tell me in confidence. Knowing that I’ve already made mistakes, that I won’t judge people for theirs, and having a safe place in which to relate their stories creates an interesting dynamic: people are far more prone to open up to me about their sexual histories.
What I’ve discovered shouldn’t surprise anyone who reads the news: the overwhelming majority of young adults have “hooked up” in one fashion or another. The Church can rail against it all day long, but it’s clearly a struggle in a society where the average age of marriage is ~27 and the chance of divorce is approximately 50%.
Of course, this doesn’t stop girls from rationalizing their behavior away. In fact, I’ve seen girls who I 100% know have slept with a guy state they were virgins. Utter, total, blatant lies, but they had figured out some reason it “didn’t count”. The drive to protect their reputations and egos is that high.
Guys, the point of all this is not to be blinded by your impression of a girl, and especially don’t be projecting your hopes of purity onto a girl. A girl’s sexual history is a significant factor in the likelihood your marriage will survive, so make sure to go in with both eyes open.